Invisible Wounds: a Self-help Guide for New Zealand Women in Destructive Relationships

Author(s): Kay Douglas

New Zealand

This compassionate and practical self-help guide has helped thousands of New Zealand women to identify verbal and emotional abuse in destructive relationships, and to make changes. This is one of the first books written for women suffering from emotional abuse rather than physical abuse at the hands of their male partners. This book contains dozens of case studies and many exercises designed to help women recognise, conquer and recover from the effects of emotional abuse. It provides insights into how relationships become destructive, and offers encouragement and practical help in enabling women to make positive changes in their lives.

With powerful interviews from 50 women Invisible Wounds:

  • Puts into words the confusion and distress of emotional abuse;

  • Explores the impact of emotional abuse on women and children;

  • Offers practical suggestions about how to address the issue of partner abuse;

  • Discusses why women stay;

  • Offers self-reflections questions to help readers make a decision about whether to stay or go;

  • Addresses the healing process after a desctructive relationship ends.


First published 1994; revised edition 1998; this edition 2008.


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'Kay Douglas has written an extraordinary book Invisible Wounds is the strong wise companion every woman needs who doubts her right to a life free from emotional abuse. Kay Douglas understands suffering. But her own life, and the rich insights she has gathered for this book, show that she also deeply understands love, courage and freedom.'- Stephanie Dowrick.

Kay Douglas is a qualified social worker who has worked for the Department of Social Welfare and has a Diploma in Psychotherapy. She has been working in the helping professions for more than 25 years – firstly as a social worker, then as a counsellor, group facilitator and psychotherapist.

Her own life has been enriched by the privilège of sharing other people's journeys and seeing them heal, change and grow. She is inspired by kindness and compassion and the courage often shown by people who have experienced adversity.

As an author she has written books on subjects that have touched her own life, ranging from overcoming an abusive relationship, to recovering from a challenging childhood, to learning to live life to the full.

General Fields

  • : 9780140275186
  • : Penguin Group New Zealand, Limited
  • : Penguin Books (NZ)
  • : 0.264
  • : April 1998
  • : 210x148mm
  • : New Zealand
  • : October 2020
  • : books

Special Fields

  • : Kay Douglas
  • : 266
  • : 266
  • : Paperback
  • : Paperback
  • : New revised ed.
  • : New revised ed.
  • : 158.24082
  • : 158.24082